When Bad Things Happen: How To Get Through It As A Family

Unfortunately, not everyone leads a blessed existence all the time. We might see our friends and family uploading delighted pictures onto Facebook all the time, talking about the amazing dinners they made and the foreign vacations they took, while you’re trying to scrape together enough money for a weekend at the beach and some nights you have to order pizza just so you have time to get on with the laundry. And even worse than that, sometimes things happen like sickness and injuries that mean you really have to work hard to stay positive. Here are a few things you can do to maintain faith in your family through the hardest times…


Be Financially Careful

When less than ideal things happen, it’s usually a good idea to tighten your belts a little – rein in your spending and make sure that you have a good nest egg in the bank to fall back on if you need to. If whatever happened to you is a result of malpractice, make sure you get what you’re entitled to – speak to a lawyer like Salvi Law who really knows their stuff and can help you get money that will make life for you and your family a whole lot easier. A lot of us feel awkward about anything financial but it’s important to remember that it’s not just for your sake – it’s for your kids’ too.


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Spend Time Together

It’s important to spend time together when you’re going through tough things – eat dinner together and make sure that you focus on good things like your kids’ swimming lessons and their artwork and what you’re proud of from work that day, instead of simply thinking about the rougher things in life. Banding together in your own little family clan will make you a lot happier – pile onto the couch together to watch movies, play ships when your toddler’s in the bath, and jump on the trampoline together. Spending time together will leave you with a smile on your face.


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Take Time Alone

However, it’s important to remember that if you’re going through a stressful time it’s absolutely okay to take some time away from your hectic kids to destress and clear your head a little. Start a creative writing class, or go on regular hikes, or take your book to the coffee shop and eat a frivolously expensive cupcake. Don’t feel selfish or guilty for doing it – you’re still your own person away from your kids and you need to talk to your partner to make sure that you get some ‘you’ time.


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Learn To Communicate

Finally, make sure that your kids know they can talk to you if you want. Being the grown up is hard when you don’t feel very tough yourself and sometimes your kids will ask hard questions. Be honest and open with them and don’t get angry for what they’re saying – they’re afraid and confused and relying on you. Being open about your feelings will mean that your kids will grow up able to do the same thing.

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