When someone that we are close to passes, it can be an extremely difficult time. Not only do you have to cope with the grief of losing them, but you often have to support others around you, as well as getting on with day to day life. This can be a tremendous stress, and can also cause you to not allow yourself to grieve because you are being strong for everybody else. But there are things that you can do to make life a little easier. Some are practical, and some are a little more emotional in nature. Read on to find out what they are.
A huge mistake that a lot of people that are grieving make is that they put away any reminders of the loved one that has passed. It is very understandable as to why this happens because it can seem just too hard to be reminded of them all of the time.
However, by packing away of every object that makes you think of them, it can hurt the healing process. This is partly because you need to be able to express your emotions and seeing their photos or old chair can be a trigger for this. Also keeping reminders of them around the house reminds you that they are not forgotten, and you are keeping the memory alive.
A massive comfort to many people when they are going through the pain of losing a loved one is their family. Family can be your rock, supporting you in your darkest time. Of course, this support and encouragement go both ways, and it is also good to help others in your family group when they are struggling as well.
This applies especially to younger members of the family, such as children. Who may not be so emotionally mature, so will find coping with the sort of situation difficult, without added help.
Finances are not something most people want to deal with when there is a death in the family. But they are an important practical issue that will need to be sorted. Wills need to be read, debts paid, and the belongs of the deceased need to be sorted through and distributed appropriately.
This can actually be an emotionally healing exercise if done properly. With the right amount of acceptance and compassion.
It is also a good idea check of any savings and insurance policies that your loved one may have had when they are alive. It is worth remembering that some people will have purchased financial products, in order to enjoy safety and savings with endowment insurance. But these not only pay out after a certain amount of time but also, if not previously claimed on their passing.
The most important thing to remember that sadness, anger, and grief are all natural reaction at the death of a loved one. You don’t have to be strong and hide them, in fact, it is much better to feel them and get them out in a cathartic way.
Yes, it may be hard for people around you to watch. But in such times you need to give equal weight to your emotional well-being and health, as well as looking after your friends and family.