Today I just wanted to post something to say thank you for all your support and encouragement through this amazing journey.  I’ve had such a great time blogging and providing advice and tips through my own personal life experiences.  It’s been a true blessing to help others in their times of need, well because we all know that it takes a village to raise our kids.  Parenting comes with many ups and downs and I think that through support and encouragement it definitely makes it a little easier, wouldn’t you agree? SO here is some news and updates from Successful Mommy Advice 🙂

          Successful Mommy Advice is taking off in a really big way, and I really want to take this opportunity to share with you.  I recently did a review for an online Learning center called K5 Learning.  This site is amazing.  You can check out my review on love it or hate it.  It provides tips and tools to help your child succeed.  I have a link on my contact me page for more information if you are interested.  I am still using the site even though my son is not quite there yet.  He’s being introduced to a whole new world and it’s really exciting to watch.

          I am also a member of Top Mommy Blogs.  My rankings have fluctuated over these past few months, but thanks to all of you and my face book /twitter followers I am making so progress there as well.  That is how K5 found my blog and some others as well so it’s really exciting for me.  So continue to vote for me, you can also write reviews and comments on how my site has helped you.  I love to read all your feedback and comments so keep em’ coming.

          As the New Year approaches so does my one year anniversary with Successful Mommy Advice.  Tune in next year for some give-a-ways and other cool stuff.    It’s been an amazing year full of many surprises.  I am eager to share the next chapter in my life in which you will have to stay tuned till next week! 🙂 I know the anticipation is killing you all, but it will be worth the wait. 

          Again, thank you all for your support and dedication to this site.  I am always looking for guest bloggers so continue to share my blog with other mommies so we can strive for mommy success one mommy and one woman at a time! 🙂

xoxo,

Reina

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Please, Thank You, magic, magic, magic, magic (Thanks Yo Gabba Gabba for teaching this!) As we approach Thanksgiving, I started thinking just how thankful I am for everything in my life.  I am Thankful for my husband, kids, home, and everything else in between.  Then I wondered, do my kids feel thankful, are they appreciative, and giving? Do they understand what it means? Teaching your kids to be thankful kids is so important and it is more than just manners, in my opinion.

            As parents we strive to give our kids the best life we possibly can.  We want them to have what we didn’t, and more.  However, I also think it’s our responsibility to teach them to give thanks and the importance of giving versus receiving.  

            I often have to remind my three and half year old son to say, “thank you”, “please, and “you’re welcome” sometimes he does this without my little reminders.  Having thankful kids is rewarding for me as a parent, because I feel like I am doing my job as their mom.

            Let’s face it kids absorb everything around them (yes, mommies even the bad stuff) sometimes we adults can be so ungrateful and rude, that it makes it impossible to teach our kids the “right” way to behave.  There are days when I catch myself having a bad attitude and my kids pick up on that really quick.  My negative energy is passed on to them in a big way, lately I have tried to turn my frowns upside down in order to teach them by my actions; not my words. 

            So I want to include a few tips in which I have implemented in our daily lives to ensure my kids are giving and showing thanks for all they have.

1.  We pray. 

            Our family is very spiritual, we believe in God and make our relationship with God a priority.  My husband and myself teach our kids that everything we have we glorify God.  So we pray before meals and bedtimes to ensure our kids give thanks on a daily.  I catch my son doing this on his own sometimes, which makes me feel great and proud that he has those strong beliefs within his heart. 

2.   The Thankful Tree.

I didn’t have a photo of the one we made, however this is a great example. You can actually add leaves every day of the month! I’ll try it and let you know how it turns out!

            What’s that? Well I actually did this with my son last year, however I think he was still too little to understand. So here’s what you do: Make a tree (you can use craft paper or construction depending on how big you want the tree) I used construction.  You draw branches and on each one you (or them, if they can write) places something that they are thankful for.  This can be toys, cars, TV, TV shows, you name it.  I am definitely going to try this activity again this year now that my son is older. 🙂

3. Operation Christmas Child

Goodsmaritian.com

            This is a great activity for you to do with your little ones.  We also did this last year.  We did 2 boxes, and filled them with goodies for underprivileged kids.  My son placed a car, toothbrush, and socks in the box.  We didn’t explain in so much detail, but we did explain we were sending a gift to a “special” friend around the world.  Simple and sweet is what little ones understand.  You can have them draw a photo and put in the box as well.  A great way to help your kids understand how to give.  And it doesn’t have to be this specific program, it can be anything! You can chose what’s best for your child’s age group.

For more about this check out their website: http://www.samaritanspurse.org/what-we-do/operation-christmas-child/

            I believe and understand it perfectly now, our kids are a mini reflection of us.  How they behave is 100 percent our responsibility.  My son ( and now daughter) are not perfect angels, nor do I expect them to be.  But they can practice to be giving and thankful because my kids are very lucky.  They have a stable home, both parents, and much more.  They lack nor want for nothing.  I want them to know that and be a blessing and show compassion to someone else less fortunate.  That’s my job, and I will continue to do what I have to so that they grow up with that mentality. 

            Well mommies as we get into the Thankful spirit, let’s pass this on to our little ones.  Teach them the importance of giving, compassion, and thanks.  Thanks for stopping by you can share or comment here, I look forward to hearing from you. Let’s continue to strive for mommy success!

XOXO,

Reina

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Lately I have been so frustrated with my 3 (almost 4) year old.  It’s been a struggle from pre-schooling to his behavior.  It’s easy to become overwhelmed and frustrated (at least for me). How you manage and cope with it is everything because even while your frustrated your kids are still watching you.  It’s an ongoing battle here in my house.  Maintaining a schedule (and sticking to it) while having to do everything else in between.  If this is you, don’t worry you’re not alone! Here are some Tips to Manage Your Mommy Frustrations, keep in mind you can do this while your kids are home with you.   

#1: Take a walk. 

            Although it may sound like something your mom tells you or like a total cliche; it actually works! Pack up your kids and go for a little stroll around the block.  Not only is this helpful for you and your stress levels, it’s also great for them.  I have noticed that after we return from our walks, the kids are calm and more relaxed than before and ultimately I feel better too.

#2: Listen to some music.

            Put on your iPod (or whichever device you have) and listen to your favorite music or song.  This definitely helps put me in a better place.  I sing along (sometimes dance) and it relaxes me.  My kids will even dance or sing along with me.  The most important thing is to feel happy and good about your day.  Once your attitude changes, so will everything and everyone around you (including your kids).

#3: Read or listen to an audio book.

            There is nothing like sitting down to read a book, but if you’re busy like I am then sometimes there isn’t enough time for that.  The great thing about technology is that you can download audio books and listen to them from your phone, tablet, or other devices.  I like to read or listen to motivational books, books that make me feel good and want to be better. 

#4:  Keep a journal.

            Sounds like I am an over-grown teenager, right? Well let me tell you that it is totally therapeutic and I think that I have mentioned this before in a previous blog regarding stress management.  A journal is a space to write down personal thoughts, feelings, and even frustrations.  Although it is helpful to talk about it, writing it is just as good to me.

#5: Take breaks.

            If you stay at home, your kids need to understand what it means for you to take a break.  During this time, you can turn on their TV shows or put them down for naps and do something for you.  I seriously cannot emphasize this enough because it’s so important. 

            Frustration can be passed along to your little ones depending on how you manage it. I will share with you that my journey has been anything but easy.  During my weakest moments as a mom,  I have yelled at my kids due to my frustration, and I feel awful.  If you can relate these tips are just a few things that help me manage my frustrating days. Although it doesn’t happen every day, like any other person there are good and bad days. But I would be lying if I said it didn’t happen often.   Being with your kids all day is a struggle (but still rewarding) but we are human and it’s exhausting.  Just remember that you can fix it, it may not happen overnight but you are in charge of your emotions.  I encourage you to try these tips if you are often frustrated with your little ones or your job as a SAHM. 

            I hope you find use from these positive reinforcements.  Share your stories, comments or feedback here.  So that together we can strive for mommy success!

XOXO,

Reina

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      Baby proofing always has been a personal essential in my home.  I think that if it’s dangerous and within their reach, it’s best to cover it up.  My son would get into everything and anything as a beginner walker.  I had to lock my cabinets and drawers all around the kitchen.  Now I have two of them and I thought for sure I would have to do the same.  To my surprise, my daughter is not as intrigued by the Tupperware as my son.  So it brought me to this week’s post, on how important is Baby Proofing your house?

            Here are six Baby Proofing tips with Toddlers.  These are simple and great ways to help you get started. Along with ideas to teach your kids to   understand the “Danger Zones” within your own home.

#1. Cover up those outlets!

            Baby’s love the electrical outlets.  Both of my kids were very attracted to this area in the house.  They would try to stick their little fingers in the holes.  That was one of the first things I did;  covered them up.  My son is almost 4 so he has lost interest in them, but now I have my daughter who is very interested!  It’s best to cover these up at all times.  If you have phone jacks, or units in your house I like to use clear moving tape or colored duct tape to cover these.  This is definitely a Danger Zone in my book.

#2.  Cabinets and drawers.

            My son would go into my kitchen and take out every piece of Tupperware I owned, with lids and all! In the beginning, I used to think, “oh how cute” I started getting tired of picking them up, and of course all the mess.  Lids started to disappear and it would drive me nuts which led me to lock all the cabinets in my house.  My daughter walks right into my kitchen now so I decided to make her very own Tupper station.  Where I put old tuppers and lids in her room to play with.  So far, so good.  She doesn’t really venture off into the kitchen and I didn’t have to lock up my cabinets this time around. 

#3. Bathroom doors

            I don’t know what it is about the bathroom, but toddlers go bananas for this room.  My son is often in there to go potty (but my daughter of course loves to follow him in there).  Now my son is learning to turn off the light and close the door once he’s finished.  I keep these doors closed at ALL times. 

#4. Corner Protectors

            I never really used these on my tables however; some people have so much space in their home that it is truly necessary.  I know that kids can really hurt themselves, especially when learning to walk.  Honestly I think once my son started walking we eliminated the coffee and end tables entirely from our house.  So it’s truly whatever works best for you and your home. 

Image Courtesy of Baby safety.com

#5.  Baby gates

            With my first child I used a baby gate to seal off the kitchen.  Along with locking the cabinets, I really just didn’t want him in the kitchen at all.  These gates only work for a short time until they figure out how to climb over them (like my son did).  So with my daughter, even though we have more space now, I decided not to use them.  I think he would only teach her to climb over it anyway LOL.

#6. Labeling “Danger Zones”

            I like to makes my own flash cards and signs for my kids but I know that it can be very time consuming.  You can buy signs that say “Danger” or “Safety First” at the dollar store or school supply stores.  It’s ideal to Label doors and other “Danger Zones” with bright colored paper or markers.  I think this is an awesome tool to help your kids recognize colors and letters. While you protect them you can also teach them. 

            Of course like anything else, baby proofing is a preference and depends on you, your kids, and environment.    Teaching your kids about the possible “Danger Zones” around them is very important.  Not everything in the house is theirs nor is it safe.  With my first child I was a little more adamant on baby proofing, with my second I learned how to simplify the process to protect them. 

            I hope that these tips were helpful and that you will use them for your future baby proofing needs.  Remember to share my blog so that we can pass along this information to other mommies, so that together we can strive for mommy success! 🙂 

XOXO,

Reina

My son through his first three years of life

After the baby/toddler milestone segment, I started thinking about what happens when our baby’s not so baby anymore.  We often hear about the baby blues or postpartum depression after your baby is born, but sometimes we forget about what happens after the 12 month mark.  My daughter is almost 15 months and my son will be four, and it just amazes me how fast the time is passing.  But with my daughter it seems that the time passed quicker. 

            My baby is growing and needing me less often, because she is learning to be independent and although I am proud of her milestones, it’s still hard as her mom.  She weaned herself from breastfeeding completely at 13 months and doesn’t want to be held as often as before.  Now as I watch her take her first steps, I realize that she will never be this little again.    

            So what do you do? Well I don’t think that there’s anything you can really do to stop time, However, I have been trying to take some time to just be there for them because before I know it they won’t be “babies” anymore.  They will always be my baby(s), but growing and becoming more interested in other things is normal and completely natural

My daughter’s journey through her first year.

for them and their development.

            Play and Enjoy their company.  The other day I realized that in a few months my first born baby boy will be four years old.  This means that he will one day be in school and we won’t be able to spend all our days together like we do now.  This really started to break my heart.  So I started taking more time from my days (and chores) to just play with them.  We get so busy with the day to day stuff that we forget that sometimes that’s all they want from us.  My son loves music and now my daughter does too.  We have “dance parties” and music time where we sing, dance, and play instruments they love it and so do I. 

            Get out there.  It’s ideal to Take little trips daily, however, that may not always be completely realistic.  I like to do little Outings once a week which are Fridays, however the other days we do little walks around the block, or the park.  This can go a long way, during this time I try to leave my phone in my purse and just focus on them (however, I do sometimes check in or post pics of them on my social media :-0 Sometimes when I feel like staying and not taking them places, afterwards I am always glad I did because they are so happy.  Happy to be with me; and I’m happy to be with them.

            Relax.  As an adult we stress, about anything and everything.  That stress is often transferred to our kids, I am saying this from my experience.  When I’m having a stressful or bad day, my kids seem to feel it and their behavior changes.  So Relax.  Watch a TV show or movie with your kids, color, paint, or do a puzzle.  These things are so theraputic in my opinion, it truly takes our minds off the things bothering us.  Plus it also helps your kids unwind and do something productive. 

            Lately I have been so nostalgic because we’ve moved to a new place and are starting a new chapter in our lives.  I have watched my kids grow from birth to now and it’s truly been my greatest pleasure in my life (even if they drive me crazy).  It’s been an amazing journey and now as I watch them grow up and turn into toddlers/preschoolers I feel sad, and think that one day they will move out and start their lives.  I’m excited to see and think of what the future holds for them.  My advice for all my mommies feeling this way is to do the same.  Remember that they are only little for such a short time.  Think about positive and fun things for them and what’s to come.  Read to them, laugh with them, and teach them everything you know.  They are  so interested in us as their parents. 

            I hope that these tips help you to focus on your little babies, they aren’t little for long so enjoy every moment if you can. 

            Thanks for stopping by mommies, I appreciate all your support, comments, feedback and love.  Share my blog so that together we can strive for mommy success!

XOXO,

Reina

My son Isaac learning to trace and follow lines

It is so exciting when our babies meet their milestones.  It means many things for moms (well at least for me, personally).  It means that your baby is on track,

My daughter laughing and learning to stick out her tongue

healthy, and learning every day.  Having two kids of my own means that this isn’t my first rodeo and I more or less know what to expect when it comes to these “magic” milestones.  I have learned that it’s ok when your baby doesn’t sit up at three months, crawl at six months, walk at 12 months, or potty train at two or three.  Every baby and toddler develops at different times.  progresses differently and you shouldn’t worry.       

            So if these milestones have you freaking out, don’t worry.  Keep calm, relax, and enjoy the ride.  They aren’t babies forever and they grow so fast, before you know it they will be so independent and needing you less and less every day.  So enjoy the baby milestones as they come. 

            In my experience I have found that it’s in our nature to worry or stress out when our kids are not like other kids.  The other day at church, I seen a 14 month old literally towering over my daughter.  She was walking and actually talking and saying words.  So I started thinking my daughter is behind.  I am the first to say that I am constantly worrying about my kids, especially in today’s world there are just so many more diseases, illnesses, and developmental problems to watch for.   From my experience with my second child, is that babies will do things at their own pace  and when they are good and ready to do it.  Don’t be in such a hurry, these milestones are not a race to the finish line.  We read books or articles from What to expect or baby center but mostly we see other babies and that’s what gets us, come on I’m sure many of you can relate to me, right? 🙂

            Walking is a huge milestone for babies, so don’t freak out if they don’t walk on their first birthday.  Not all babies walk at 12 months, as my pediatrician explained babies will or can begin to walk between the ages of nine to 15 months.   So your baby has plenty of time to get it down, some babies don’t walk till 16 months! I recommend after the 15th month to consult your pediatrician  if your baby has no desire to walk, or doesn’t walk holding on to things.  Never be embarrassed or worried to ask your baby’s doctor questions, that’s what they are there for and we always need that sense of security as parents. 

            Is your baby little, big, or anywhere in between? Well wherever they are on the “chart” I’m sure they are A-OK. Today, My daughter is 14 months and barely clearing 20 pounds.  Although she is considered to be below “average” for her weight, our pediatrician doesn’t see a concern, because she is just growing that way, that’s her pace .  Of course I did freak out, I thought my breast-milk wasn’t fulfilling her needs any more, I was so tough on myself because I thought she was too small.  Once our pediatrician confirmed she was in fact very healthy, I felt much better.  She’s petite, and I’m Ok with that.  🙂

            For all my mommies with toddlers, if yours isn’t talking, pooping and peeing in the toilet…don’t worry, there’s hope.

            My son took forever to talk, he wouldn’t respond to me and of course I assumed something was wrong.  One day, he just started talking, he began saying words I didn’t think he knew.  It’s amazing.  And now he won’t stop talking! LOL! He learned his numbers 1 through 10 by the time he was two and half, he is now tracing lines, following directions, and learning the alphabet.  He also didn’t potty train right at two or three.  He took time, and now he is getting the gist of it and I couldn’t be more proud of him and all his accomplishment thus far (and my hard work 😉            

            Just remember parenting is a journey, and so are these milestones, don’t forget to pat yourself on the back every now and then.  It’s a tough road and we have high hopes and expectations for our kids.  Naturally.  I think as moms we tend to be harder on them  ( at least in my case) Since I am with them all day, I feel like I am the disciplinarian, teacher, and biggest cheerleader all wrapped into one.  It’s been a battle in myself to learn how to cope and understand each of my children and their specific needs from me.  My kids are great, and growing but that doesn’t mean that it isn’t hard work.  Am I right?  As always if you see something that concerns you, address it and find out how to proceed.  Talk with other moms, friends, pediatricians, or anyone really.  Sometimes a shoulder to cry on is necessary in this journey of motherhood. 

            So how can you keep track of all these things going on in your baby’s life? I like to keep individual baby books for both my kids.  From pregnancy to first birthday parties, I keep it all in here.  It’s been fun for me to go in and log all the silly things my kids do, I try to update it as often as possible.  If you love to scrapbook then keeping a baby book will be a great thing for you.  You can continue to add to it as often as you like.  Eventually I think that it will be great for them to see when they are older and one day show their kids

My daughter and son’s baby books. Made by mommy with love

            Thanks for stopping by mommies! Remember to share my blog with other mommies out there so together we can continue to strive for mommy success!

XOXO,

Reina  

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Boxes, packing, unpacking, and… toddlers?? Wait, I didn’t know that those things go together… Well if you’re like me than they do! Our family is currently going through the moving process and what a process it is! Moving can be stressful and filled with many different emotions.  Personally, I felt overwhelmed at first putting all my things from one place (of 8 years) in boxes.   

            As I began taking pictures off the wall and packing all of our belongings so many memories flashed before my eyes as the house became empty:  my home, creating a family, bringing both of my kids home from the hospital, tears, and laughs.  Although I knew it was time for a change, it still filled my heart with a set of emotions I didn’t think I’d have. 

            Since I know just how stressful this can be, I wanted to share a few ways to cope, plan, and coordinate your move with your toddlers/babies.  It’s not easy, and I endured some stress and aggravation during this process, if you’re feeling this way remember that it’s a temporary process and you will be unpacked and all moved into your new place in no time.  Try and enjoy the experience and process.  Your kids are watching you and every reaction you have.  I have five tips for  a successful Moving Day With Toddlers and here they are! 🙂

            Tip #1:

Pack Smart.  What I mean by this is make sure that everything is coordinated the way you want them.  For example, I packed my kids rooms first this helped me once we arrived at our new place.  They had all their toys and belongings at the new house, so they would feel comfortable and right at home.  I also coordinated my boxes by room (kitchen, bathroom, our room, laundry, etc) this helped me once I started unpacking at the new house.  All fragile items were in one box (or a few depending on how many you have) so this way they didn’t get at the new house.  All fragile items were in one box (or a few depending on how many you have) so this way they didn’t get mixed up in regular day to day stuff and break. 

            Tip #2:

Pack a backpack full of goodies: Since you’re busy moving around, you may not be able to “entertain” your kids for a while.  So I decided to pack what I like to call a “bag of tricks”.  A backpack or a small plastic tote are ideal ways to carry things for your little ones.   It’s a great place to keep snacks, water bottles, toys, books, crayons, and other things your kids like to play with and keep busy.  My son loves stickers, so I put some in there and it would keep him busy for a while.  Since most of their stuff is packed away, this “bag of tricks” really helped me and them during this process. 

            Tip #3:

Enjoy the process.  I struggle with this still today.  I am not the type of person to take my time and leave things around in boxes.  For me that is not enjoyable AT ALL.  I like things in their place and organized so that I can start my day fresh.  So as my husband explained to me, “enjoy putting things away, don’t look at it like a task”.  So I started doing that.  Once I changed my attitude so did everything else.  Now after one week our place is falling into place with everything in the correct place.  If you are like me with very little help (Maid/Nanny/Butler didn’t show up to work, HA) Remember you are only one person and you can take as much time as you need.  Like I mentioned before this is not me once I get started on something, good luck stopping me. However, I did need to sit back and enjoy the process as much as possible and it’s been kind of fun since changing my view on things (thanks Hubby). 

            Tip #4:

Take breaks with your kids.  This has been super challenging for me.  I like to take breaks, I’m all for it actually but when I see the mess screaming my name it’s hard.  Don’t worry mamas it will be there for you in an hour! 🙂 In this hour I go play outside with my kids and take a moment to enjoy our new place.  To see them happy and excited is my joy, so I have to sit back and soak it all up. 

            Tip #5

Introduce your kids to their new house.  This can also be a difficult time for your little ones.  My son who grew up in our old house, that was really all he knew.  Now he is being introduced to something new.  It’s not easy for them either.  Make it fun for them and explain to them that this is their new house.  My son was afraid to take a bath at our new place, now he has no problem.  IT takes time, but how they react all falls on us.  Have them color or draw a picture of their new house and how they feel and hang it up in their room.  These little things can really go a long way. 

            So there are my five tips for Moving Day (With Toddlers).  It’s a tough job but it’s also very rewarding once your finished.  I know that this week I feel so accomplished, I didn’t realize just how much work I did over the last week.  Take your time, soak up this new journey in your life and try to keep positive spirits.  Our kids are relying on us for that reinforcement. 

            Thanks for stopping by to successful mommy advice.  Remember to share my blog so together we can continue to strive for mommy success!

xoxo,

Reina

         Lately I have been feeling like there aren’t enough hours in the day! I mean I just can’t get everything done and in most cases I feel like a chicken without its head.  I wake up early, I go to bed late and I still feel unproductive.  I mean, I’m home all day right? Shouldn’t my house be spotless and my life be in tip top shape? NOT! I am a stay-at-home-mom, but that doesn’t mean that everything is perfect like many want to assume.  It’s tough.  Ultimately it’s never ending.  So is there a solution? I think so and I believe that it all has to do with you and how you organize your time.  Planning and organizing your day as a stay-at-home-mom is imperative if you want to have a successful day.  At least in my case.  If you’re a visual person you will really get use from some of my ideas, I am all about writing stuff down, labeling, and documenting things with paper and pen.  My husband says, “you know there’s an APP for that, right?” I understand that through technology we can use APPS and electronic calendars.  Uh-Uh, not this girl.  I’m old fashioned and proud, with my day timer and pens!

            First things first, get organized.

photo courtesy of daytimer.com

 If you do in fact prefer to use digital calendars through your phone or computer, great.  If not then go to Target, Wal-Mart, or any other store and get an organizer.  It can be small medium, or large depending on what you feel most comfortable with.  I personally like mine to be medium sized.  In this day timer, I have insurance cards, contact information, doctor/pediatrician information, you name it.  It’s my lifeline.  Without it I’m lost.  It also allows me to plan my week accordingly.

          I am not a spontaneous person.  I like to plan in advance so I am prepared for it.  I am not the type of person to get up and go without a diaper bag! Crazy right? So keeping this organizer or day timer really helps me to keep my days/nights organized. I know many of you are thinking, you’re a stay-at-home-mom, what do you need all this scheduling for? That’s a great question, thanks for that! Well even stay-at-home-moms need this to stay organized.  Actually I think we need it more.  Before I had kids and was in the workplace I didn’t even use an organizer.  I didn’t need it.  I was able to do things as I pleased and it was easier for me.  Now I have doctor appointments, dentists, play-dates, and that’s on top of all the day-to-day stuff. 

            Second thing, get your house in order.

My husband doesn’t often cook, but when he does, he does it on a day when my refrigerator is a mess! He was picking and complaining about what a mess I had.  I really hate cleaning the fridge by the way.  But he said something to me that I think is true, “you need to get your kitchen and house in order”.  At first I was angry then I realized he had a point.  I mean I’m here and he’s at work, I need to make sure my house is on point.  I know that it gets overwhelming, especially if you live in a small house. 

            So what did I do? I started getting rid of things I didn’t need any more.  I didn’t realize how much of a hoarder I really am until I found things under my sink (empty) and my closets.  What I started doing to make space is placing cereal, cookies, crackers, and other snacks in plastic snap containers.  I also labeled them so that they are easy to find. If your interested in this method of organization, take a look at Dymo label printer from  labelcity.com, inc.  A friend of mine on Face Book mentioned that she chops up fruits and veggies and puts them in containers for her kids to grab.  I thought that was genius. So I have started to do that, and it makes things easier for me too. 

            Third; Plan ahead

My “teacher” agenda for my son helps me plan ahead for the entire week. Bought this book at Target in the dollar section

I home-school my son, go to the gym, send him to a playgroup three times a week (Monday-Wednesday), and everything in between.  My day has to be planned the night before.  What does this mean? Well I have a Lesson plan book, where I keep my son’s daily schedule.  It has subjects that range from numbers, shapes and colors, letters, and comprehension.  Seems like a lot of work for a three year old? Not really.  I sort it out throughout the day, so he doesn’t feel trapped with being glued to his desk.  He has a busy day there’s no doubt about that.  But he’s energetic and I need to enhance that by keeping him “entertained”.  At the end of the day, I mark off what we completed and then plan the next day. 

            For my chores and stuff around the house, I have a

white board where I write down a daily schedule.  How many of you feel like you’re cleaning every day? ME!! It’s non-stop.  So I have a schedule that allows me to keep my house clean and I just pick up daily.  So Monday I clean the bathroom, Tuesday I dust and vacuum, Wednesday I do laundry and grocery shop, Thursday I organize fridge and closets, Friday I vacuum ( I have two kids need to vacuum more than once a week), and the weekends I take off from cleaning and spend time with the family.  My day starts at around 6:30 and the kids wake up around 8:30.  We go to the gym, and from there we start our day.  Whew! I’m exhausted already.  From 6:30 to 8:30 I do a few loads of laundry and work on my blog.  It’s a great time for me to enjoy my cup of coffee without the kids.         

            Fourth; creating a routine

Sometimes we get tired of the same old routine day in and day out.  But it’s so necessary for you and your kids.  Even once they start school, they will need a routine and schedule.  I made a schedule (by hand) and have it posted up on the wall for everyone in the house to see.  This way there is no confusion as to what time is lunch or dinner.  Everything happens at the same time. Every day. 

            Usually Fridays are the only days where I break routine and we do something fun.  I implement a lot of learning time for my son, but we also do table activities, Sensory bins, and nature walks.  It’s fun for him and I think that he actually learns more that way. 

            I did not create this overnight.  When my daughter was born things were difficult for me and I couldn’t get into a routine that fit her needs right away.  Now that she’s already a year old, I finally got it down.  I get tons of ideas from Pinterest and from other moms.  SO remember that it takes time and you will find through trial and error what works best for you.  It’s not easy, but it’s doable and you will notice the changes almost immediately and ultimately you will finish the day feeling productive!

            Thanks for stopping by mommies, hope you all found my tips helpful.  Remember to keep sharing my blog and voting for me, so together we will strive for mommy success!

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XOXO,

Reina

Top Photo on the left and center: My two kids with their paternal grandmother (abuelita) and my kids with their maternal grandfather and grandmother on bottom photo

Why are Grandparents’ so important? Next to their parents, a child’s grandparents hold a very important role in their lives.  Not only do they teach them special things, they also love them different from a parent.  My kids are very blessed to have their grandparents’ in their lives, they spend time with them and my son has very special memories with each of them.  For our family there is distance separating them from their grandparents, try not to let that stop you! A photo, card, or phone call can go a long way.  This relationship between grandparents and parents rely on you the parents when they are little.  Making a little effort matters, and I know how easy it is to become busy and forget the little things. So this year on grandparents’ day I really wanted to make something special for my children’s grandparents to show them just how important and special they each are to us and the kids.  So here are a few Grandparents’ Day craft ideas for you and your little ones to create.  Remember that the creation of memories starts now. 

            Idea #1: Personalized

Grandparents’ Day Cards

Cards: Great for both Grandma and Grandpa, where you can tell a little story about your child and their grandparents’ favorite things to do together.  I had my son draw pictures (to the best of his ability) and then I elaborated with words.  We also used stickers to help add a little decor.  These are great for grandparent’s offices, living rooms, or refrigerator

s, then they can save them and go back to them as the grandchildren get older.  I also think that for you grandparent’s if you’re making a special scrapbook or photo album for all your precious memories this card is perfect for that as well! 🙂

  Idea #2: Book Marks and Door Hangers:  My son and I made both; One for his paternal grandmother (as my son calls her Abuelita) and his maternal grandparents’.  You can see the photo to the right of the post, you can of course add whatever you like to decorate and add those personal touches.  These are great gifts for the special day. 

Door Hanger

Book Mark

       When sending these little treasures, have your kids place the stamp on the envelope and place it in the mailbox.  Grandparents appreciate any little thing you send them, a little letter or note saying you love them.  Although we the parents put in most of the work, we can still include our little ones in the process.  One day Grandma and Grandpa will have the chance to show them their work. 

            Take this grandparent’s day to show your love and appreciation for the special ones in you and your children’s lives.  I know that for me my grandparent’s taught me so much, I am lucky to still have my paternal grandmother here with me today.  She taught me a lot about life and things that I still use today.  My maternal grandparents’ taught me to love unconditionally.  Now it’s my parent’s turn (and mother in law) to teach my children the things that I cannot.  I am so blessed that my kids have these amazing people to look up to and admire one day, the same way I did with my grandparents. 

Three Generations: My grandmother, Me, and My daughter

            Thanks for stopping by today, hope that some of these ideas help you to decide what you and your child will do for their grandparents on this special day.  Remember to pass my blog along to other mommies so together we can strive for mommy success! 🙂

XOXO,

Reina

         I am busy all day with a three and half year old and 13 month old, from breakfast to dinner with very little breaks in between.  I’m sometimes the first to wake up and the last to go to bed, it’s exhausting and at times it can cause me to lose my mind.  I’m sure many of you can relate.  Sometimes our house is anything but calm, it feels chaotic and loud most of the day, sounds pretty natural for having two small kids running around.  I see some moms who have everything under control and their kids behave and listen with no problems.  I started wondering what was wrong with me.  Ultimately their behavior falls on you, how they act around others is a reflection of you at home.  My son acts up from time to time, especially here at home.  Through research and trial and error on my end, I have found a few ways to create the calm before the storm in my environment, my home, even if only for a few hours out of the day. 

            First off I think it’s important to remember how it is to be a kid.  Of course most of don’t’ really remember being three or even four years of age, but I imagine how difficult it is.  You’re still learning to communicate or as we call it “using your words” and it can become overwhelming and confusing.  So sometimes we really have to bring ourselves down to their levels and get into their heads, so to speak.  My son listens when I speak to him in a certain tone, yelling and screaming only causes chaos in my personal experience.  A stressful environment is no place for a kid.  Your kids need to see you in control, not freaking out.  If you freak out so do they. which causes a storm before the calm at least for me.   I believe I have mentioned this before.  I have noticed that if we get off schedule or miss a nap time things take a turn for the worse in my house.  Of course you want to let them be kids and play, but you do need to reinforce rules and a schedule so they know the difference between day and night. 

            So what do you do to create this calm environment in your own home? Here’s what I have learned to do. During the day, I try not to play the TV this is a struggle because sometimes it’s just “noise” to fill up the background.  So instead  I play music (classical jazz or instrumentals seem to work best) while they are playing or eating sometimes even during story time.  The yelling and screaming seems to subside.  I also have designated nap times.  I know that ideally both kids “should” nap together but unfortunately that doesn’t work for me or them.  My daughter naps first which gives me one on one time with my son.  Once she wakes up he goes down and I have the same alone time with her.  It’s a great way to spend time with them individually.  I also give them time to make a mess with their toys and before meals and bedtime they pick up.  I also have my son sit down in the living room or his room for at least three minutes (that’s the time according to his age, however I have recently started doing four minutes).  He hates it.  But it seems to be working and he learns to soothe and work out his emotions, trust me three minutes seems like a lifetime with a busy preschooler.  After dinner and bath time my son, daughter, and I sit at the table and color.  I have always felt coloring was therapeutic and relaxing after a long/busy day.  Although my son doesn’t always sit for long, when he does it’s a nice experience.  These little things can go a long way, and once you do them you can start adding or removing things that do not work for you and your child.  

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            I hope that some of these tips have been helpful for you in whatever you situation is.  Sometimes we need help or encouragement from other moms to know that we are not alone and that we can learn from each other.  These things did not come to me over night, trust me.  It has taken me time, energy, and patience to learn and grow with my kids.  I am learning something new about myself every single day as a mother.  That is what this blog is for, a place to communicate and share our journey’s. 

            Thanks for stopping by successful mommy advice! I hope that some of these tips have helped you if you are in this situation.  Make sure to share my blog with other mommies out there so together we can continue to strive for mommy success! 🙂

Check out these great pins from Pinterest, great ideas for crafts and all things toddler!

http://pinterest.com/calclingpeach/kids-corner/

XOXO,

Reina