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Staying attentive is one of the golden goals of most mothers, but one of the hardest to achieve. After all, there are many, many things trying to steal your attention over the course of a day. Staying strong and only focusing on that which matters could be considered one of the most important things to do, but one that takes the most practice. There is almost no caring mother who doesn’t find herself busy, busy, busy on a daily basis, and so ensuring that you’re able to stay as attentive as possible could be considered one of your first and foremost important priorities to achieve against this.

 

There are many ways to do this. We have compiled a list of four very important methods, and you can add more at your leisure. However, mastering these four will stand you in wonderful stead, and surely add even more competency to how wonderful you already are as a mother.

 

Watch

 

To be more observant, you of course need to watch your child. There are many things that can present itself to you if you place your effort here. For example, how well is your child socializing? Could it be that their unwillingness to listen is simply because they are nervous, a very young child, the other child has been too aggressive, or that a physical ear health issue might be preventing them from hearing the other child at all? Never be sure to jump to conclusions, but certainly be aware of the issues and symptoms that might occur as a result of this happening. Watching your child in a range of solo and group play scenarios can help here, as well as observing how they react to small things, such as certain foods or bathtime. This can certainly help you understand if things are fine, or if you need to take further action.

 

Regular Checkups

 

It’s law for you to have your child attend checkups regularly, but sometimes even more of this can be worthwhile. For example, ensuring your child is brought to the opticians to gauge eye health and the necessity for glasses is important. If your child reacts badly to certain foods you might have found an allergy, and this will need some careful planning to factor around. You will only know if any of these issues will matter if you speak to the professionals, but you can also refer to approved books with educational and referral based informational perspectives.

 

Talking

 

Sometimes, your child will try to express to you issues they are facing. This might be in broken speech as they learn to talk, or through physical expression. It could be a simple recurring issue they bring up. Talking to your child in whatever way you can will often lend you more insight into how they feel than many other circumstances. Sometimes, not expressing can be as powerful as talking. If they are routinely quiet as a stone before entering their swimming class for example, they might be feeling intense fear and will need some gentle encouragement to help them through. Communicating with your child is the most important thing you can do, and as a mother you will have likely defined your own particular way of doing so.

 

Dividing

 

Many families have more than one child. This is a wonderful thing. However, when your new and gorgeous baby enters the family, it can be difficult for the current child to cope with the lack of attention. This is not because they are greedy or narcissistic as a child, but they simply have certain requirements for maternal and paternal care that must be taken into account if they are to develop well. If you can, dividing your attention between them both equally is something that must be striven for every day. While of course this will never be a stock 50/50 line that you will draw each day, aiming for that can help you avoid allowing a child to feel left out, even if that belief is less rational than they consider it to be.

 

This can be achieved by keeping tight control over your schedule, and ensuring that personal one on one time is always factored in with the new child. You might take them to the cinema while the father stays home with the baby, or generally play silly games with them throughout the course of the day. Anything you can do to give personal attention, particularly after they return home from school, can simply and gently show them that they will always be sustained and loved, despite the requirements of the new baby.

 

With these tips, you can be sure that you’ll develop into a much more attentive mother, or stay the currently fantastic one you are.