I chose to become a Stay-at-home mom in 2009 when my first son was born.  for nine years, this has been my life. Although I am confident in my decision to be a SAHM- But it comes with many challenges.  It’s a never-ending job where I wear many hats and hold many titles, but my favorite one of all is being Mom to these four wonderful kids.

 

It goes without saying that I love what I do. What many forget is that being home is IN FACT a JOB.  You work hard as a mom, with many rewards also come challenges.  Being at home all day with littles is not only physically exhausting but also mentally.  You face many emotions daily, with loneliness being at the top of the list.

 

You become so consumed with your children and day to day life that you forget to do things for you. You also have a hard time holding onto friendships you once had before children.  This loneliness can lead to depression.  It’s very important to take care of your mental health and get help immediately.

 

Here are some tips that have helped me, especially recently with the birth of my fourth child.  It’s not an easy journey and there are many tools out there to help us moms.

 

Counseling

 

Counseling   is a great way to talk about your feelings. With all of the modern technology of today there are so many ways to get help.  It gives you have a chance to open-up in a different way than you can with family or friends. I started talking to a counselor after being diagnosed with PPD, and it has helped me tremendously.  I have found that I am not alone and that many women like me suffer from PPD and the loneliness that comes with being a stay at home mom.

 

Support Groups

 

Support groups are AMAZING! I belong to two different groups- one for special needs parents, and the other is parenting.  It’s a great way to talk to other moms who understand EXACTLY what you’re going through. Each group is different and some provide child care which is very helpful and encourages you to go back every week.  There are also some great online support groups through social media platforms where you can ask questions and get answers right away.  This is a good way to meet new moms and share stories and advice.

 

 

Make Friends

It’s important to make friends when you can.  I recently connected with some of the moms from my children’s PTA at school and it’s a wonderful relationship. They understand what it’s like to be a mom of more than one child, and the challenges I face.  I can be myself with them and reach out for help when I need it.

 

Try not to be so hard on yourself.  This unconditional love we call motherhood is not always a walk in the park and butterflies and rainbows.  It comes with many battles in between.  Try to enjoy the moment as much as you can and get help if you need it.  If you have any questions or comments feel free to reach out.